Q:So I met this girl at work, she is kind of dating a guy who also works there. The guy is a typical asshole kind of guy who treats woman like they are worthless and ignores her, but for some reason I find that woman are drawn into those relationships and afraid to walk away? I've hung out with her a few times now and we really hit it off. My problem is that how in the world do I make her see that she is wasting time with a guy who won't treat her right?
Firstly, I think it was wrong of you to intrude on a relationship (whether you think it is a good one or a bad one) because you have ulterior motives toward her which means you are not just looking for a friendship.
Secondly, I don’t think you can make her see. If you say this guys is an asshole, but she is with him, then that means she is attracted to him and no matter how good of a guy you are she still is attracted to that kind of guy. Yes, many women are attracted to that kind of guy and it usually is a sign of dysfunction and insecurity in her life and many girls don’t change until they have been hurt enough times to make them recognize and appreciate the nice guys. Thank You & Good Luck, anon!